Expectation – Change – Frustration

I wanted to write on this from very long time. As the subject is describing, I wish to discuss or rather tell you my point of view on various stages of life which directly touch your emotions. Yes, I am using word emotions b’coz these three words badly effect on your Emotions. Lets me describe these words one by one and try to relate with each other and will find why I am saying it’s badly effect on your personal emotions. With my personal experience, here I go:

First what is Expectation: Expectation is something which, you think, will or should happen in future. As coin’s faces, expectation also has two faces, bad and good. However its generally lean to bad face. How??? Say, If a person expecting something from other person and its fulfilled… then, I am sure he start thinking - oohh, that was expected and he or she genarally give less value to that, what happen. But unfortunatly if its doesn’t happened as you have expected you feel dissatisfy. You are not agree to take this things as it is come to you. So my point of view is - a less advantageous result of expectation gives rise to the emotion of disappointment. Now question is with whome you expect? ofcourse I keep my expectation only with my very near and dear one. Acatually I always start expecting with each of my close one but after sometime his or her behavior or performance let me think on my action. I tell you buddy its take lots of time for everyone to react positively on such “Unexpected” behavior. Its hurt you emotions.. isn’t it? I am not saying you should not expect anything with anyone. Sometime expectation gives joy in your life. I have expreianced those joyful moments.

Change: Change denotes the transition that occurs between one state to another. There is a saying –“The only constant is change.” It’s true. The only thing here is not true is, ppl like me genarally takes changes very easly in their life. We have to admit, it’s a "continious" thing in life. Changes always makes u sucessful or unsecessful, joyful or unjoyful, strong or weak.. The choice is yours – and it is a choice. How can you make them work for you?

Frustration: An another stage of emotions. In this stage things are not working out as planned, the end result may take longer than expected. People begin to see that their initial expectations for the things those are not going to happen. Resistance to the changes is occurring, although the resistance is usually not obvious. This is the place where energy starts to be lost; people start to bail out; mind can’t think good; everything looks unrealistic – this is the danger stage. Frustration replaces optimism. Questions about the value of the change, the need for it and the “how did I get here?” question sare heard.... Its your time to react on these questions.

My Conclusion: So if you see closely, except Frustration everything is okay.. but frustration is the result of Expecation. The results always got change due to some changes. You are so determine with you expectation that, if something goes wrong or some changes happen, which drag ur expectation somewhere else, where u don’t want to stand yourselves, you got frustrated. So the bottom line is – change is inevitable in life. Don’t get frustrated with changes and never expect a lot from ppl. Enjoy the moment with them share the love but don’t expect. Expectations lead you to a bad shape of life….

What do you think about my point of view. Please let me know too..